Psychology of family relations
The family plays an important role in the life of every person. Many dream of family happiness, but few can achieve it.
A person is so arranged that he is used to rely primarily on his own experience in his life, because often the problems of failures can be found in childhood. The child observes the relationship of parents among themselves, directly to the child, to the surrounding people and life situations. Much depends on the child’s gender: boys strive to be like a father, girls adopt a lot from their mother.
Over time, the horizon of the child is expanding, he gets acquainted with the outside world, observes relations in other families, communicates with friends. As a result, he has his own model of ideal relationships in the family. Moreover, the more complicated the relationship in the family, the stronger the image of this model.
However, the question arises: why are two young people who decided to create a family and, having formed their models of family relations, repeat the mistakes of their parents? The answer will be simple: how many young people before this step were discussed and shocked their views on family relationships? In fact, quite a bit. And as a result, from the very beginning of family life there is a clash of interests in the most elementary things, not to mention fundamental positions. The situation may be heated by the Soviets of “friend” relatives, and is already starting
Tailing the correctness of your own model.
In such a situation, mainly the young family should protect their own boundaries from extraneous intervention. You need to try to agree among themselves, find the points of contact in solving conflict situations. It is important to understand that the perfect recipe for family happiness can be created only by joint efforts.